Just A Date

Just A Date

Good morning everyone. I hope that you are all enjoying this cooler weather – I know I am! I have been a bit absent from blogging recently and for no reason other than I am just super busy and I guess I am just enjoying being away from social media. I apologise if this blog post is a bit chatty. I have missed you guys 💕

For those of you who are new to the blog, welcome & for those who are back, hey guys. Nice to see you. If you have been following my blogging journey you’ll know that this weekend coming up was the weekend I was supposed to be getting married. Luckily, I am not and for me, it is just a date.

Planning a wedding for it then to not go ahead is brutal. I’m not going to lie. Finding your dream venue, sending save the dates, buying the dress, finding a florist, a photographer, a band, a cake lady and the loss of monies is just devastating. (And the occasional wedding related email that pops up in your inbox. Ouch!) However, my ex calling off our engagement was quite simply the best thing that ever happened to me. I am a stronger and more determined woman because of it all but I have also learnt to let down my guard, be softer and more open with my boyfriend and to love in a way I have never felt before.

The whole experience hasn’t put me off the idea of getting married and to be honest is now just something that I take in my stride. I don’t ever really think about it. It is just something that happened but it will never define me or my view on relationships.

This weekend I am going to Devon with my two best friends for a few girly nights away and I cannot wait. It is just what I need 🍾 X

A Big Decision

A Big Decision

Social media. Our use of it can affect how authentic and how honest and true to ourselves we really are. I have written about this topic before on my blog and I’m going to write about it again.

I have been ‘instagramming’ for four months now. It’s been exciting, fun, hard work and really difficult all at once. I have been so lucky to work with brands and companies receiving gifted items and creating content has been so enjoyable. For the most part, my social media experience has been positive so far.

Two mornings ago I woke up and logged onto Instagram. For the first time I had a feeling of dread. I knew I was going to spend the next fifteen to thirty minutes scrolling through my feed, engaging on pages and in comments and I just didn’t want to do it. It felt like a chore. But I just carried on as normal and posted my daily photos and engaged with my feed. Mistake.

It took me a couple of days to really decide that actually I wasn’t happy with doing that anymore. I wanted to engage with content I truly loved and creators who I know by name and who I can chat with in the comments section. Queue the cull.

There are so many reasons to create content and lots of people use the platform in a positive way. However, there is such a dark side that no one seems to really chat about that openly. If people on Instagram tell you they don’t watch their followers count like a hawk, they are lying. I have had numerous chats on Instagram with lovely ladies about how it has affected their mood, their mental health and actually what is all that for? Honestly the feeling of your follower count increasing is great but not at the expense of your day-to-day reality and your happiness.

So what’s my point? My point is that we should be doing less scrolling and more living. ♥️

Choices

Choices

New relationships are magical and exciting. They give you butterflies and can make you feel like you’re the only two people in the world. But new relationships can also drag up some parts of old relationships…

It’s something I have been very open and honest about with my new partner and he has listened and has been very understanding. We talk about it and we are good at communicating. Something I haven’t had experience of really before from a partner.

Whether we like it or not, our past has an influence on our present and we have to work on it not affecting our best moments and our happiness. Easier said than done I know. It’s hard. It can be tricky to let down all of those walls and it can be hard to let someone new in.

For those of you who have been left heartbroken, scarred and hurt just remember that what happened to make you feel that way can only affect what you choose for it to. You will be OK.

❤️

Feels Like This

Feels Like This

Romance portrayed in movies is always so perfect. From the way the two protagonists fall in love to the happily ever after ending somehow seems so far away from reality. But is it really?

It’s not news that things for me haven’t panned out the way I expected. Turns out they are even better. I know who I am, I know what I want and I am happier than ever. Sure, there will be good and bad days but I believe that absolutely everything happens for a reason and right now, I am all butterflies.

So whenever you feel like you will never get past all the hurt, you will. The most magical moments happen when you aren’t looking for them. Just like in the movies.

A Bad Day

A Bad Day

Have you ever had one of those days where you feel super flat and you can’t pin point why?🤷🏽‍♀️

Tomorrow, I have been home for a whole month. It’s flown by and it’s pretty crazy that an entire month has passed to be honest.

Don’t get me wrong – I am feeling very positive about what is yet to come but the unknown is kind of scary. I keep trying to push everything I have recently gone through to the back of my mind: moving country, a broken engagement and trying to find a new job. Perhaps that is where I am going wrong. Instead of pushing it out, I need to be embracing the change. Easier said than done on a bad day. (Not to mention I feel quite hormonal right now!)

Very good things are starting to happen in all areas of my life. Some are very lovely but unexpected and I am looking forward to the next adventures.

The Meet Cute

The Meet Cute

Meeting someone new when you’re older, wiser and have your s*** together can be quite scary.

You’re no longer the care-free age of twenty where you have the time and effort to date those you absolutely know aren’t good for you. Conversation turns to the specifics quite quickly. When you get to this age, you have a pretty good idea of what you’re looking for and what you want.

Cue the meet cute.

After the meet cute you know how it goes – the moment you say goodbye, all you think about is the next time you say hello again.

Battle of the Blushers

Battle of the Blushers

Having a bit of a blush on your cheeks can make all the difference when you’re not feeling great and you can add that pop of colour.

I have tried lots of different types of blushers – powder, cream, stick, tint. But which is the best?

What I want from my blusher is an all day staying power. I have scored the blushers below out of 5.

Cream Blushers

One of my favourite cream blushers is the NYX Bright Idea Illuminating Stick in Pinkie Dust. It’s a perfect size for your handbag on the go. You apply the stick straight to the cheek and blend it in. It has a highlighting glow to it and the colour is very subtle.

Score 3/5 as I would have to reapply during the day to maintain the colour.

Another favourite cream blusher is Maybelline Dream Touch in colour Plum. This is a great alternative to the NYX and has a similar consistency.

Score 3/5 as I would need to reapply this too.

Powder Blushers

I love a powder blush! In my opinion, it is the easiest way to put on a blusher and you always get an even distribution of colour (unless you apply too much!)

My favourite blush palette is by Boutique at Sainsbury’s in colour True Love. The different shades are beautiful and can be used alone or together to create a gorgeous shade of pink. I use my Anjou blusher brush to apply this to the apples of my cheeks. With regards to staying power, I do find powder blushes don’t last too long unless you are wearing a primer and also use a setting spray.

Score 3/5 with no base or fixing mist and 4/5 with.

Other favourite powder blushers are Maybelline Blush in shade 90 Coral Fever and L’Oréal Le Blush in shade Peach. The same score applies to the one above.

Tints and Liquid Blushers

Cheek tints are a bit of a game changer when it comes to staying power.

I recently purchased Bourjois Healthy Mix Sorbet Blush in shade Raspberry. I apply two drops to a blusher brush and then blend it in carefully. The colour can be built up with more drops. It is a beautiful shade of pink and gives a healthy glow to the skin.

Score 5/5 as it lasts all day and I don’t need to reapply.

Other favourite cheek tints and liquid blushers are Benefit’s Posietint and Daniel Sandler’s Watercolour Liquid Blush in shade So Pretty.

Both score 5/5 for how long they last as no need to reapply to keep the blushed colour.


So who won the battle of the blushers? It would have to be Bourjois and the cheek tint. Honestly for a longer lasting blusher, a cheek tint is what you need guys. 💕

Going Nude

Going Nude

I have always been a nude nails kinda gal. A pink nude, a brown nude or just a plain nothing nude.

Here are some of my favourite nudes for this season.

Revlon 165 Romantique – The pinkest nude of the bunch. Two coats gives a really subtle splash of pink to your nails. Quite hard wearing with a top coat.

Essie Spaghetti Strap – One of the lighter nudes I have tried. Very natural looking with two coats and doesn’t really chip with a top coat.

Essie Touch Up – The darkest nude. Gorgeous deep pink. With two coats it looks quite purple. Long lasting and looks beautiful on.

Anny 500 Opalescent – My absolute favourite nude. It catches the light beautifully. Very long lasting and even when it chips you can’t see it. I can wear this for over two weeks and it still look fresh.

L’Oréal 116 Café De Nuit – The brownest nude. Beautiful beige natural colour and very long lasting with a top coat.

Sally Hansen 220 Café Au Lait – One of the more natural nude colours. Sally Hansen does great quality varnishes and this one is no exception.

All of these nudes are really subtle and last well with no chipping. Definitely a must have for the spring season. 💅🏼

Just Go With It…

Just Go With It…

Over the past week I have really enjoyed just being home. I feel happier than ever and I have accepted what happened with my ex and I can move on. Nothing ever happens like you imagine it will. And that is OK.

I’m looking forward to reconnecting with old friends, meeting new people, seeing new places and just going with the flow.

“Sometimes we need to stop analyzing the past, stop planning the future, stop figuring out precisely how we feel, stop deciding exactly what we want, and just see what happens.” – Carrie Bradshaw

Now, can someone pass the gin please?

What Do Men Want?

What Do Men Want?

In the film ‘What Women Want’, Mel Gibson discovers that he has this ability to be able to hear women’s inner thoughts. Well wouldn’t that be useful hey!? So, that is my question to you ladies – what do men want?

The List

We’ve all made a list at some point in our lives (or several!) of personality traits and mutual interests we want our man to have. Not to mention of course those deal breakers we have that we absolutely 100% will never budge on. So why do we sometimes find ourselves making exceptions? Is it because we can’t seem to find someone who can check off all twenty, thirty or a hundred tick boxes? Is it because we get so fed up of looking for that ‘perfect’ man that we settle? Does the ‘perfect’ guy just not exist?

I am guilty of straying from my list and whilst being single after six years can be pretty daunting and can feel a bit rubbish at times, it definitely isn’t worth ten bad dates with men who have no ticks on the list.

That brings me to the question – do men do the same? Do they have a list and if so what do men add to it?

The First Date

What do men want from a first date? I haven’t been on a first date in over six years and I can’t really say I am overly thrilled about the prospect of one. Will we get on well? Will I fancy him? Will he make me laugh? Will he be shorter in real life than stated in his bio? Blah blah blah…

Do men even think about all of the above or are they just in it for a good time and perhaps a cheeky snog at the end of the night or even more?

The Aftermath

Right, seriously guys – after a date has gone well and there’s been flirting, banter and you have both had a great time, why is it that sometimes you never hear from them again? You start thinking about what you did wrong, what could have been the reason and whether it was because you had something stuck in your teeth the whole night.

What do men want after the date? The chase? The game? Whatever happened to just arranging a second date and the occasional text back and forth in the meantime?

 

Perhaps you’re in a loving relationship, you know your man so well and you know exactly how to make one another happy. Perhaps you have just been out on a few dates with a guy and you aren’t sure yet where it will go. Perhaps you are still looking for your ‘list guy’ (hey, that’s me). After everything I have had to deal with recently the only thing I do know is that if a man wants a woman he can turn on and off like a light switch, then run in the other direction. But if a guy really does want you, he will never give another man the opportunity to get you. 💕